Living from intelligence happens when there is a self-transformation, being perfect, new. As you live from perfection, you will discover your flaw, and a new perfect will be born. This is the process of living/dying.
On the other hand, existing is from knowledge, from learning, remembering, making notes, saying quotes, repeating, being sad, happy, greedy, resentful, unworthy, etc. We were all taught to exist in this manner, and that is what we are rewarded and praised for doing, so that is what we did. We easily fell into the trap of knowledge/existing.
While you are living in the new, you might notice that you will fall back into old habits and old conditioning pops up. You might go right back into feeling bad about that and getting upset about it, or you could just notice it and observe it without any feelings about it. The “feeling bad” will pull you back into the old way of being, and the latter will keep you alive and full of energy. There will be times in the beginning, and it will be often, when you slip back into the old way of being. If nothing else, it will be a reminder of how awful it was to be stuck in all the sorrow, pain and misery.
Living each moment in the now is to see all parts of everything. Each experience has its positive and negative to it, and it depends on which one dominates to see which part has its hold on you. In either case, it depends on each part to keep things moving. Seeing the flaw will cause a new perfect to be born, and being perfect will allow the flaw to be seen.
I recommend that everyone take the time to just be by themselves without any distractions, no TV, no newspaper, no radio, or anything so that they can spend time alone with themselves. It is important that you are able to live with yourself before you attempt to live with anyone else. Most people cannot do that, yet they still want to live with another person. Then they wonder why it isn’t working.
When you are able to see the flaws of yourself, the parts that people call their confused or bad parts and not see them as “bad” or “confused”, then you are probably ready to be with another person. Until then, those parts are still controlling you and they are doing it without your awareness. Those parts of you will come up as being bitchy or resentful or full of hate and revenge. When you can get to the point where you are excited about finding those places inside you, you realize they are the places of real discovery about who you are, and those are the places where you can have the greatest gains towards transformation. Those are the places where you hit a wall. Hitting those walls is the opportunity for the window to open—for you to be able to move on through to the other side. Yet, it is often too painful to get to that space, so you often back away and the window closes.
You might notice in your life that there are many people who leave—those who move away from a relationship that doesn’t make it. You then might ask yourself what causes that? You then need to pause to allow an opening for the answer to come. Relationship is the most important thing that we have because in it the real person shows up or doesn’t show up. The manner in which we can discover ourselves is in our relationships.