In order to be free you must empty your mind. Thinking is our biggest problem because our thoughts keep us trapped in our current robotic condition. By robotic I mean that we have been trained and conditioned to react to whatever is going on in our lives. We cannot not think, and thought is always going in a continuous loop. Thought is in the domain of illusion. It is not real; yet most people believe everything they think is true.
The greatest thing of importance could be linguistics, language. Speaking out what is on your mind is the way to emptying it. I am not referring to rambling on with endless thoughts, though that is a beginning. Most of what we have in our minds is garbage, and we need to speak the garbage out before we can get to the truth. If you do not listen to what you are saying, you will not hear the garbage.
You could start by asking permission of those around you if it is all right with them if you speak the truth. You are shut down and don’t speak the truth of yourself. Part of shutting down also happens when someone speaks the truth to you, and you get upset at what they have to say; then you stop listening. If anger comes, or you object to it, them permission was not really given. If you give permission, then in linguistics anything and everything is open.
Transformation, awakening, free or whatever word you cares to use, in the domain of language, has to do with one thing. It has to do with being empty. In doing these workshops, you challenge me and liberate me at the same time. The manner in which you liberate me is by making me go to new places, and then the challenge is to say the words so that they are no longer in me. Speaking is the manner in which you become empty.
Learn to hear yourself speak and deliberately lie so you can hear the tonal quality of a lie versus that of a truth. The tonal distinction might be a tiny thing, yet it is important for you to hear it so you will know when you are lying to yourself. Listen to hear if what you say includes criticism, judgment, bitchiness, feelings, etc. Listen and see if you are trying to manipulate, get even, take revenge or to cause harm. If it is any of those things, it is repetition and it just fills you with more garbage rather than emptying you.
If it is the truth you are speaking, you get it out of you, and that action empties you. The way to know if you are speaking a lie or the truth is to listen with the tonal quality of your voice. Sometimes this is not easy to hear, so that is why I suggest you speak lies and truths on purpose and listening to your voice as you do.
When truth is spoken, it is healing and energy is created. When what you speak is a lie, manipulation, judgment, arguing, revenge, etc., that steals your energy. Anything that you are hiding, or holding onto ties you down. You cannot be free when you are full.
In most people’s minds there is a continuous circle of confusion. If you take a thought and attempt to follow it to its end, you might see it never ends. You are in a continuous loop, going from one thought to another and then to another.
For example, if you look at a crow you might notice all the labels and beliefs you have about a crow, you cannot see the crow. In this massive swirl of confusion, in order to be free you must start from emptiness. This is why you cannot free yourself. You are not empty, and you are starting from confusion. Since we are all starting from confusion, we might have to cause a beginning to happen.
Just stand up and say, “I create empty.” This will be a beginning, a place to start from.
Some people hear what I am saying and they think I am asking them to let go of their most precious possession, to let go of their feelings and attachments and to everything in their life. They do not see that those things are not only tying them down; but, also, they are tying everyone else down with them.
Also, people mistake feelings for emotions. Things like anger, jealousy, envy, sadness, happiness —those are feelings, and feelings come and go. They are not real. We cause those feelings in us based on beliefs we hold about certain things in our lives. If we think they are good things (in the domain of duality) then we attach a good feeling to it. If we think those are bad things then we attach a bad feeling.
Emotions are real, for they do not change or come and go based on thoughts or beliefs.
I am asking you to let go of something that is not real, something that is tying you down and causing you pain and suffering and they also cause pain in suffering in others. Yet, people have an opinion or belief that feelings are good things, and they do not want to give them up no matter what. That is what makes all this so difficult.
You can become empty in illusion or reality and they are both the same. What I mean by illusion is the exercise I asked you to do with creating empty. That was not real, yet it also happened. It was a psychological beginning. A real empty is to have a transformational experience. The empty done by illusion can be easily reversed or filled whereas the real one will be more difficult to reverse or fill back up. Since the illusionary or psychological empty doesn’t have a strong hold on you, it might be very easy to fall back into the robotic world.
In order to maintain the state of empty, start by emptying yourself by telling the story of your life, keeping in mind it is just a story. All the words about your life are in your mind. They are stored inside of you. You do not need to go into detail about it, just speak the things that come to your mind. This is to get it out of you. The telling needs to be done without any sorrow, anger, regret, judgment, pride or any attachment to it at all. Just relay it as a story.
Then to keep from creating another story, speak yourself out as you live your life on the go. Speak the truth of it, which will empty it. Thought comes in and goes right back out, like the tides of an ocean. If you add or attach anything like feelings or beliefs to what you are saying, everything gets stuck and cannot get out, and you will fill back up again. If it is a possibility to live from nothing, from empty, then there needs to be a flow in and a flow out kind of situation. Life is never static. Flow is to live your life. Belief is to end your life because belief is static.
If you are flowing down the stream of life and you have an attachment to things in your life like your religion, your beliefs, your children, your need to be right or anything else you hold onto, it stops your flow. That is stagnation, and if you are stagnated while holding on to those things, your children, your parents, your friends, your money or career are also stagnated. Then no one is moving anywhere.
Belief blocks intelligence. It puts a roadblock up so that what comes in stays in. This is how most people are living their lives. They are so full of belief that they are causing pain, suffering, stress and having all sorts of illnesses and diseases because of it.
If something starts to enter your space of empty, take notice of it and empty it again. If you notice any discord, disharmony or stress in you, or if you have to be right, then you are not empty. If you react to something that someone did or said, you are not empty. If you get angry or frustrated or confused or sad, you are not empty. Empty is being free of all those things.
If you notice you are reacting to what is happening, do not take it into yourself. Do not engage in the drama of other people’s lives. If it seems they are throwing darts at you or inviting you into their drama, then just psychologically allow that drama to stay there between you. Do not take it or throw it back at them, just allow it within the space between you. You do not need to ignore it or turn away from it.
If you are stuck in drama, then that is all you can see, and you cannot see yourself inside of it. If there is no drama in your life, you will find it and put some in it. Though you might say it finds you. All that drama seems real to you because you cannot see it. You make yourself sick, and yes, you will then be sick; yet you cannot see it was you who made you sick. If you could move yourself above the drama, you can leave all the parts of the drama. You can release a large portion of your difficulties since drama is a contextual thing, or you can do it one thing at a time.
You are all stuck in yourself, in all your thinking, drama, stories and excuses. You think everything revolves around you. You are your own solar system. You want everything else to change so you can stay the same. You want everyone else to fix the world; and you don’t see that you are the world, not in a vain way, but in a way of taking 100% responsibility for yourself. The vain way is to make everyone else responsible for things.
With a free/empty mind, the drama would end as soon as it starts.