Being Coy

Posted on September 12, 2014 by Edward Jones

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We have been taught that we cannot speak the truth of things because speaking truth has almost always gotten us in trouble. As a result we learned to use manipulation to get the things we want. Most people are not aware of the way they manipulate.

Some people are what I call takers and don’t realize it, they think they are being coy. Coy is making a pretense of being shy or modest, and it is a manipulation. The way they get things is not by directly asking for things, but by pulling back a little bit which causes others to come closer and then they would back up a bit more.

These people sort of suggest something or just give an indirect hint that they want something, and then say they don’t really want it, or want something different. This keeps the other person wanting to get it for them.

A coy person might think they don’t really want the thing, yet on a deep level they know that by rejecting it, or saying they don’t want it, that is how they will get it, and the more they pull back the more other people want to give them things.

Since they don’t ask for things outright, they are not aware that by their actions they are actually asking for things. And, because of that they usually get more things than if they were to directly ask for them. They don’t see they are takers because they cannot see that is what they are doing. This is a manipulation that has worked in the past; and since it worked, they continue to do it.

It is very difficult to see yourself because it is invisible to you. Others can see it very clearly in you, and sometimes point it out to you: and rather than hear the truth in what they are saying, you probably just get upset. People don’t want their manipulations to be seen by those they are manipulating, so they deny it if it pointed out.

None of these things are “bad” things, but they are something that you might care to see about yourself because these are the things that control you. You might think that is what is controlling others — and it is, but more importantly it is what is controlling you. Even if it were something “good” and it were controlling you, you might still care to let it go.

So, if you are someone who is seeking to discover yourself, pay attention to what others say about you. Don’t take offense to it, as that is not really hearing them, but actually listen, without any feelings, to the truth being shown you. The greatest gift someone can give you is to tell you what they see in you, because you cannot see it yourself. You might notice that you have never been in your own life, and that it has been chaos, and that you have been “absent” in it. I offer an invitation to you to now be in it, to have a life of ecstasy.

About Edward Jones

Edward Jones, in 1979, had an experience of death ending in what he calls self-transformation. In modern terms, it has been suggested that it was a psychological death, "But if your ability to walk, talk, or think ends; and you return to consciousness, you will have had an experience of death. You will ultimately see that a psychological death would be experienced in the same manner as a physical death," he states. Unlike others who have had and speak of a transformation, Edward hand no idea of what happened to him during his four hour death experience. He'd had never delved into mysticism or any kind of Eastern thought, but what he experienced was exactly what millions have searched for forever. Edward calls it ecstasy--living with a new consciousness, one void of violence, stress, fear, and worry--being free. Edward was just a common ordinary business man who came face to face with all his failures in business, in marriage and all this world calls success. In facing that failure without excuse or reason and with truth, he came upon the source of all things. Because he had no previous knowledge of what had happened to him, he realized that he was the source of all that had happened to him. "There is a new consciousness born on the planet and it is available to you now." Edward relates this message in workshops, meetings, business, online forums and to all who come into contact with him. Edward carries this one message in his daily life: "There is no love on the planet, and that is good news because in realizing that, we can dispose of what we have been calling love, which is not love at all, and create the possibility of bringing forth Love, Truth, Intelligence and Creation to our war-laden manner of existing on this earth." Edward's books are not exactly fodder for the mind which is seeking success, money, stature, or security in this insane world. They are for the ones who care for internal peace for themselves and world peace for the planet. Edward died, and like the Phoenix he arose from the ashes of his old life to bring forth something new onto this planet. He discovered that is was a consciousness void of violence. It is our violence bringing us closer to the brink of destruction. Will we transform our lives, or will we self-destruct is the question that we need to ask of ourselves. Edward has devoted the last thirty years of his life bringing reaching out to people who are seriously considering the options before us.
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