One of the biggest issues affecting us is the lack of listening. True listening with others entails having no thoughts, especially of already knowing. If you have an opinion, a reaction, anger, a judgment or you attack the speaker, that is an indication thought is present. Even the thought, “Am I listening?” isn’t listening. Listening requires a blank space in your mind, and from a blank space you can hear everything. From already knowing something you can only hear what applies to what you think you know. If there is any reaction, then you are not listening. If you can catch yourself in the moment of the reaction and are aware of it, then listening could happen. Listening happens only when the mind is silent.
Most people are too busy thinking about what they want to say or how they are going to respond to the person, and they hold onto that thought while the other is speaking so they can remember it. In doing that, they are not listening to what is being said. Even having an agreement or disagreement to what is being said is causing something to not be heard, and any internal comments to what is being said causes listening to cease.
Sometimes people are too busy wanting to learn something so they can teach it to someone else rather than hearing it as a truth for themselves. They want to talk about what it is rather than actually doing it themselves. We stop listening when we are trying to understand or figure out what is being said. We shut ourselves down and are not in the moment, and we do not care to hear what is being spoken. When your psyche or ego or whatever you want to call it doesn’t want to hear what is being said, people shut down and stop listening. The mind wanders or falls asleep. We want to hear that which agrees with what our mind believes to be true. It is more important to us that we get to say what we want to say, so we are just waiting for our turn to speak rather than listening.
In order to listen clearly with an open mind, you must want to go as far as you can go to actually discover something. You have to be willing to go all the way. People only go as far as they are used to going, and then they shut down. During our workshops, you are only present a few minutes of a three hour workshop.
Even though listening is probably the most important thing in life, most of us lack the ability to listen; and it is also true that there aren’t many people who are saying anything that is worth listening to. People will grasp onto beliefs and want to believe everything they hear, so it might even be hazardous to listen. They might listen, but those who they listen to aren’t speaking truth themselves. Even those who think they are helping, are doing harm. Like a psychiatrist or psychologist, those people take a person who is on their way towards transformation and pull the person back to make them a better robot than what they were.
Be discerning about who you listen to/with. If you are experimenting with life and listening with many others, you will start to be able to hear when truth is being spoken. Don’t try to figure out or understand what they are saying, just listen with an open mind and allow whatever is being said to come in and flow through. Don’t try to grab it and hold on, that will only cause a belief to be formed. Then experiment with it and put it in your life. Don’t force it. Just notice it when it happens while you are living your life.