It seems that there are those who are givers and those who are takers. They can come together if they invite each other rather than pulling apart. All you can do is make yourself available, spread your arms and invite others in. You cannot make them take you in because that is in love, and that is violence. This is the world’s way of being.
Sometimes when people touch each other there is a void there, a distance. They aren’t aware of what they are doing, pulling away. It is irony that often people cannot see that the person who is with them is giving him or herself, and yet they complain the other person isn’t giving themselves to them. That is because they cannot receive it. They have conditions on everything. If something isn’t given in the manner in which they want or expect it, then they cannot even see it happening. They will continue to look and look for someone who will give themselves to them and not see it is right there in front of them to accept.
Sex is a barter tool, a manipulation that females use more often than males because it is one the main tools they have to gain power in a relationship. It is the final thing that will work if all else fails. If you give or receive fully from another, you have lost control. The greatest orgasm happens when you lose control, when you give yourself completely to another. I am inviting you all to have an orgasm with life, to let go of control, as control is only in the mind. If you live your life as an orgasm, you will live in ecstasy; and that would take letting go of control and listening completely. Everything is heightened and all senses are alive when you drop your control. That is the sensitive nature of listening and being open.
If you care to experience another person completely, you would need to offer yourself to them, and most people are not willing to do that. Usually, what is blocking them is the fear of letting go. You need to care to go all the way, 100 percent. If there is any fear in there, then you are blocked, you cannot give, and you cannot receive. When fear is there, you will not feel safe opening yourself to others and you will cause a fight or something else to happen that will give reason to not open yourself to them.
The non-sensitive nature in which we all live now is multi-tasking. Trying to do several things at once is blocking our sensitive nature. We are all distracted and cannot see or hear what is right in front of us. Most of us were brought up in dysfunctional households where people were yelling and fighting and not caring about each other, and we still carry this same conditioning. Our parents didn’t know any other way of being, and we don’t know any other way of being. The only way we know how to be in relationship is to fight, scream, holler and argue. Sometimes people think if the other person doesn’t fight with them, they don’t care about them, that there needs to be fights, and that is what we pass on to our children.
You cannot fix your parents or grandparents or your children or your partner. The only one you can do anything about is yourself. Taking care of you breaks the chain of conditioning that connects all of you together. The only place you can break the chain is at its weakest point, which can be you. You are the weakest point because you are observing you are in the chain. You can see you are at the effect of your parents and that your children are at the effect of you. Any chain only needs one weak link to break it, and when you break it you can look around and see that there are many chains and many people bound together which you can also break.
I say there is no love on planet earth because there is only violence. Two things cannot occupy the same space at the same time. Now we have only the mirror image of love, which is in love. Love would be something like heaven on earth, and yet that doesn’t describe love because everyone has a different idea of what heaven is. For most people, heaven is the place they envision they will go when they die when in actuality, heaven is the space you enter into here, now. Perhaps this error about heaven came about when they meant you will have peace and serenity (which is heaven) if you die to your ego. So, it became you go to heaven after you die, yet it is not the physical death they were referring to. You can have heaven right here, right now.