You need to take responsibility for everything you think, say and do; for everything in your life. This is why I say to pick a context in your life and take it all the way through to its end. By context I mean, see a major theme that is occurring in your life, such as unworthy, or vain, or victim, or anger … etc. Then notice when it is happening in your life. This keeps you with a structured mind on one context/domain. Once you clear a context, then another will show up and another. Each time that happens and you clear it, it becomes easier to see the next one and to clear it. In essence, you get a clear view of what’s next.
Then, there is the residue that will show up, and that will be needed to be cleared as well. It is important to name the contexts as they arise but only long enough to identify it, not long enough for you to become attached to it again. Someone was telling me that she had something come up and spoke the truth of it as being guilt and then had a “reaction” after that, and thought the guilt was still there, but then after looking saw it was fear, and then saw it was the fear of admitting she was wrong. if she hadn’t named it, she wouldn’t have known what was going on, what issues/beliefs/feelings she was clearing.
Some think they can get to the issues by working only on body sensations. Maybe that does work, though I have found that it is the mind/thinking causing the body sensations. So working only on the body will not get to the issues that need to be cleared and that are causing the discomfort. For example, if you have a fear, it creates a wall around itself, and in this case we are going to call that wall “discomfort.” It created the wall to keep things away. That wall is a buffer. The same thing happens with anger, or whatever context you are looking at. There is a wall of anger created to keep people away. So if you go only into the discomfort and find that it disappears, you might then not be aware that the fear is there because you are not looking for it. You only see that the discomfort is gone, so you think that is complete.
Sometimes it is just a matter of listening to the people around you and they will tell you what is happening with you. Most of the time you cannot see it because you are too close to it, but others can. I saw a short video that showed a girl with a nail sticking out of her forehead, and she was complaining about having a headache. Every time the other person tried to tell her it was the nail, she would cut him off and insist that she knew better and continued to complain about her head hurting.
I recommend that you live your life from the place of “I don’t know,” and then you might listen with the people around you who are telling you that you have a nail in your head. She was so sure she knew what was going on, yet she didn’t and couldn’t listen to others who were attempting to show her. When you live your life from “knowing,” you are not open to hearing what others are saying. When you live your life from “I don’t know,” you are open to hearing what others are saying.
If you live your life from an image/illusion; and if you talk from an image/illusion, everything you do and everything you say is an image/illusion, which is a lie. An illusion is something that is not real; therefore a lie. You might ask yourself if you are living from an image or illusion, and chances are, if you can speak the truth, the answer will be “yes.“
We were all conditioned to believe this world of illusion is true. That belief is based on the conditioning of our parents and their parents for many generations back. Once we believed the lie to be true, we started living our lives in an illusion, out of a belief. Now if you take 100 percent responsibility for believing a lie to be the truth and for living your life as a lie, then it all disappears. This is the time when you are not a liar when you speak the truth of yourself. This is why/how it disappears. It is exposed to the truth. In the speaking of the truth there is energy that is released, like the popping of a bubble and there is a release. With every truth spoken there is a gust of wind, a lightness and energy received.
There is a consequence of speaking truth that sometimes isn’t so pleasant. Often, the people around you start to disappear as they aren’t comfortable with someone who is speaking truth. They want to stay the way they are, and they want you to stay the way you were. And the more you speak the truth and expose yourself, the easier it is to do that. The more people you expose yourself to (metaphorically) the more energy you get. What you put out is what is returned. If you are putting out honesty, integrity, naked openness that is what you get back. If you put out lies, innuendoes and drama, that is what you get back.
There has been an imbalance in the male/female relationship for thousands of years. The male has dominated and suppressed the female, and now the female is fighting back, which isn’t bringing about balance. It is causing more of a separation. Anything we are in resistance to will only increase that which we are in resistance to. I say that the female needs to get back to what a female is, which isn’t a male. She thinks she needs to be equal with the male, yet they both have different qualities which complement each other. I call that balanced rather than equal.
A true partnership happens when two people move as one —when there is a singular movement between them. Those people could be in a life or death situation, and they can depend on the other to do what they say they are going to do. In many relationships now, there is not even a coming together. What they have is more fighting against each other. When people in a relationship have an argument or there is fighting, I perceive that to be the end of the relationship. A fight means it is over because if we cared about each other, we wouldn’t fight. Yet that is how most relationships are these days. They are fighting almost all the time, either verbally or silently inside.
For me when I see a relationship is over, I start it anew. Otherwise, I would hold on to whatever the fight was about. I end it, and start anew each time. I see that others are still having the same fight they had from the beginning, and they keep repeating it over and over. To end a fight just say, “That happened, and the fight is over with now. We have a clean slate to start with, so we can start new from here.”