Instead of working on all the contents in your life that are causing you problems, start looking at your life in context. A context is a large part of your life – a major theme of your life; whereas content is the smaller parts that fit into the context. If you look at your life in context you can see the whole picture.
We can pick any context or theme of our lives and see all the content within it. Sometimes it is easier to start with picking a smaller context, as it might be more obvious and easier to work with. Yet, that could get us stuck in the way of psychology is now, as they work on the content, the pieces, and try to fit everything together. If you look at the context, then you see the whole and you see all the pieces and all the pieces that are not part of it as well.
The largest context for all of us is that we are robots. All the other contexts fit within this one. Being a robot means that we are all trained and conditioned from the minute we are born, and the people who trained and conditioned us are also robots who were also trained and conditioned.
All the things we encountered as a child we said “when this happens I will do that; when that happens I will do this”. This is the how we programmed ourselves. This goes on over and over hundreds of times every day. By the time we are four years old we have thousands of already predetermined plans of action for almost every situation, and we are not even aware of it. So when that same situation comes up again, we go into the automatic plan and re-act. This is the robot in action.
Robots cannot not do what they are doing. In other words, they must do what they do. They are stuck in a program. The only movement is a reaction — a conditioned response. Robots have buttons that once they are pressed a particular program activates, or re-activates. It is automatic.
This is why it is so difficult to discover it– because it is hidden from us. You might have times when it is quiet and you have awareness, yet when there are distractions or people around or things to do you forget all the awareness and go into autopilot. This is why I don’t recommend the kind of meditation where you sit quietly for 30 minutes and then go on with your day. Meditation is something we do as we live our lives, not just for 30 minutes of sitting in silence. As soon as you wake up, the program begins, and the thoughts start coming in. And those thoughts are full of things you have to do, people you have to see, plans you made, etc.
Then others come into your life, your partner, your co-workers or other people who start to talk to you and your thoughts go there. All day long your thoughts dominate your life, and your thoughts carry with them the programs you were taught.
To be aware in your life requires a lot of energy. I say it takes 100 percent in order to break free of the conditioned reactions in our lives, to break free of being a robot. Anything less than that is staying in the robot. The robot is 99 percent of who you are, so it would take 100 percent to get beyond it.
The distance between zero and 99 percent is the same as from 99 percent to 100 percent. Because it takes all of the 99 percent plus the one percent to step outside of being a robot, you must be 100% of any context in your life in order to break free. You can take any context, as all contexts are the same, in essence. They all fit in the context of I am a robot.
This 100 percent is seeing your life as a robot, without any attachments to that. There is no sadness, or anger, or judgment of any kind attached to your awareness of your roboticness. If there is any attachment, then it is not 100 percent.
We are all broken. Broken in a million pieces. Each trauma, drama, program etc, caused a break in us. And, in order to put them all together, we would need 100 percent in order to be whole. The context of something is to be whole, to have it all.
When you hit the 100 percent you instantly see the flaw in the 100 percent that is what keeps you alive. The flaw is whatever you see when you get to 100 percent. When you see your life in context, you will see the whole first, then all the places in your life that is that will show up, and all the places that is not that will show up too. As soon as you see it completely, then you will notice when it shows up each time, that is the flaw. They will get smaller and smaller and less and less frequent.
It is a moving into yourself. And when another person enters your life, it is the whole world they bring with them, and that whole world is you. You need to go from being the most important person on the planet, around to being the most important person on the planet. The distinction between the two ‘selves’ is that the first one is a selfish, vain person who travels around themselves seeing their stupidity, their craziness, their failures, their laziness, their … everything, to seeing they are a robot (all at 100 percent), to the most important person on the planet (with humility).
This is the journey through hell. The journey through hell is when there is no blaming or justifying or excusing anything. Hell is discovering it is not the other person, or the situation, or the government, or the job, or the world, it is all you. You start off with being alone in the world, but you carry other people always with you in your thoughts. You have attachments and judgments and thinking about others, thinking you are not alone, though you really are alone. You make this complete journey and you discover you are alone, taking 100 percent responsibility for your life.
Even if you have people around you, you are essentially alone. That other person is not inside of you. You are the only one there. If you ever care to add someone to your life you need to discover yourself first, and that you are alone.
One way to see your life in context is to notice one area of your life, such as being vain, or unworthy, or controlling, or fat or a robot or whatever dominates your life, and then pretend you are it. This might sound crazy, yet even though the context is your whole life you will not be able to see it, because it is your whole life. It is like not seeing the forest for the trees. Pretending will exaggerate it. Be a robot, what does a robot do? How does a robot act? What buttons does the robot have?
This is a way of tricking yourself. Let me pretend like I am a robot. So you do things pretending to be a robot and you notice that is actually how you do live your life. You might be able to trick yourself into discovering that you are a robot, by the very action of it.
The reverse is also a way of seeing your life in context, by noticing things that are outside of the way you normally act. If you are someone who has to always be right, then admit (as a pretend) you are wrong even when you are certain you are right. Make someone else right. I am talking about obvious places; like someone else dropped something and you said you did it, though doing it when there is an argument, when you are stuck on being right, will give you even more impact.
This will balance all the wrongs you have done, as well as highlight how difficult it is to admit you are wrong and someone else is right. And then it will get easier and you will possibly notice it isn’t that bad to admit to being wrong.
And then there is another way of noticing the robot, and that is to create a larger context in order to view your life through. I use transformation, you can use whatever you like: enlightenment, awakening, free. Say, “I create transformation” (or whatever word you care to use), and that becomes your context. Then notice what is and isn’t that in your life. You will then notice the robot in action.
The way to get out of being the robot is seeing it 100 percent as you are doing it, in the action of it in the moment of the now. Then that opens the door to intelligence and being free. It would allow the whole world to open up to you.
Creating and seeing your life in context will allow you to see the whole and then the pieces, vs how it is now where you are looking at all the pieces trying to create a whole. This might seem like a small distinction, yet it is very huge and will make a huge shift in your life.