One way to keep yourself clean from belief and programming is to ask questions. The old adage of ask and you shall receive has so much depth to it if you listen to the words. Most people think that means they need to ask for money or things they want.
What it actually means is to ask a question, and then pause, don’t force an answer. This pause opens a space, which is the unknown. Into this space intelligence can enter. When an answer comes, there will be a question included. If there is no question after your answer, then it is probably a belief.
Asking questions keeps you alive and growing. Sitting on beliefs keeps you a robot.
Experiment with life, walk around with ideas as you live your life. This is another form of asking as you are looking for answers as you live your life. And actual experimenting with life has a greater affect since you are in the action of asking rather than the linguistics, words, of asking.
If you do that, you will start to gain energy in your life. You will start to be active and alive because you are in the action of asking. If you are in the action of asking you are in the now, the present moment. If you are experimenting, then you are not doing what you have always been doing.
This could cause things to be uncomfortable because it is not familiar. Let it be uncomfortable. If you are comfortable, then it is the same as you have always had. This is doing something new. If you move into the newness and that becomes comfortable, than that has become the same thing and something new needs to be added or removed.
Sometimes we need some prodding to get ourselves moving towards this. We might cause some drama or trauma in our lives in order to shake us from the boredom/comfort in our lives in order to do something new. I suggest you do it on your own rather than wait for something to happen. Start by asking questions, and don’t necessarily seek answers. Give a space for an answer to come and experiment with life.
This is what is needed to be alive, to live your life, rather than to just exist, rather than being the robot person who does things by repetition and always has to be right, defending your beliefs, or is a parent (role) or a son/daughter (roles). These old roles are what we have always done – reacting out of habit.
Sometimes when we are with another person for a while, in a relationship with them in some way, we tend to have a picture of them, and we expect them to be and act a certain way. Sometimes we don’t notice if they have shifted in some subtle way, because we are still seeing them the old way. We only see the way they used to be.
In order for you to not fall into this trap, I suggest you check to see if the person is the same or if you are holding them in an image that you keep of them. First, acknowledge you have an image of that person, and then ask yourself if they seem to be the same way, and then really look and see. Maybe even notice certain buttons that used to trigger a reaction and see if they still do.
Some people never get to the point of actually living until they are just about to die, and then it is too late. There is another kind of death, a psychological death of the ego or the self. That death can also cause this aliveness. It is never too late for this to happen. This psychological death will cause a new you, a new beginning. When would you like to be free? Now or at your physical death?
The action of asking will keep you alive and free.