The world of knowledge, the illusory world of language, is a mirror image of what is the reality of intelligence. The mirror image of trust is belief. In that mirror image of knowledge, when we believe something we trust that it is true, and we put our trust in it. We study something and then look at it, we are using thinking to guide us. From the belief of our studies, we think that we know what we need to do. This is putting trust in something that is an illusion, this is not trust.
In the reality of Intelligence, we would do something and then look at it. Doing something from the reality of intelligence requires trust, which is really trust in yourself. And, often other people will look at the action you took and say, “How could you be so stupid to have done that?” which is a way of forcing you back into the world of thinking/illusion to figure out each step along the way. But if everything is figured out before you do it, then you will always be repeating your past. Someone who is not repeating the past is going to look really stupid to someone who is living in that world of trusting intelligence.
It has gone from trust in ourselves to wanting to trust other people. And then to make it more confusing, we want to trust that these other people are going to do and say all the things we believe they should do and say; and if they don’t, we feel betrayed by them. It is a lose/lose situation.
You may say to another person that you trust them to treat you with respect (for example), and you assume that they will know what that means and be able to accomplish that. Chances are you don’t even know what that means, and you are hoping they do, and if they don’t you punish them. See how crazy it is?
There is a way to be nice and caring to another, though it is not what you might expect. The way is to always tell them the truth even though they might not find that to be very nice. As Gloria Steinem said, “The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.” You might be pointing out things they don’t care to see or look at.
Now there is a caveat to this, which is to make sure you do not hold any animosity when you are speaking it. If you have any anger or judgment or opinion or a want for revenge or control or manipulation in what you say, then it is not speaking the truth.
And, it is important to tell the truth to yourself first before speaking it to someone else. Often it is easier to see something in someone else, and not realize that you are that as well. So, first look at yourself and speak the truth to yourself before you speak it to another.
When you speak the truth to yourself, it cuts like a knife; it often hurts because you are seeing the truth of yourself, and sometimes it is not so pretty. Everyone has the lowest opinion of themselves, and that is what they want to hide. Once you open that door of yourself, you discover the true ecstasy of being free, and you can see more clearly. Then when you look at someone else and you speak the truth with them, it doesn’t include any attachments because you have cleared it in yourself first. That is where trust is, that you have cleared yourself and you can trust yourself so you can see another person clearly.
Often people ask me questions, and I start to answer and wonder about what I am saying, yet I say it anyway, and then it makes itself clear as I continue speaking. I trust that it will do that, and it does. I do things without any expected result. I am speaking in the psychological now, as in the physical I often have some expected result in a job that I am doing or something I am building.
There is also a factor of keeping your word. If you say you are going to do something, make sure you do it, or let another person know if you cannot or if you will be late. I am in charge of keeping my word, and no one can knock that out of me, that is part of the trust that I have with myself.
Things went all haywire with trust issues because we are looking at the mirror image of it, which is belief, and all beliefs are illusions/lies. Then we got the notion that trust relies on someone else. So you hold a belief that this person you are in a relationship with will treat you respectful and with all “shouldss” and “shouldn’ts” that you believe are true, and you call that trust. It is really expectation, not trust.
Now there is a part of trust that could relate to another, and that is to trust that person will be exactly who they are. Don’t expect them to be anything or be anyone else. If you are with someone who is messy, then you can trust that they will be messy. If you are with someone who stays out late and drinks too much, then you can trust they will stay out late and drink too much. Yes, this is also expectation, yet it is more realistic than expecting them to be someone they have never been.
So you can trust them to do whatever they do, for to trust them to do anything else is ludicrous. You can open this up a bit and trust that they will do/be who they have been, and then watch without any expectation and see if they continue to do it as they have done it before. This is being open to them, shifting from where they used to be into something new. When you trust someone to be exactly who they are, it allows you to see them more clearly as you don’t have false expectations on them.
As I have stated, trust is really in yourself, and that is often very difficult because we all have been conditioned into the conspiracy of ineffectiveness. We have been forced to conform to a society and its rules that are contrary to our natural self. When that happened, when we finally gave up and followed the rules we were forced to follow, we lost the trust in ourselves. On some level we all know our lives are a lie, and if we know we are lying, it is difficult to trust ourselves. We know we cannot trust a liar, so how could we trust ourselves? And, when you don’t trust yourself, you always doubt the things you do. You often keep changing your mind or second guessing what you do, or not do anything at all.
Trust is really only in regards to yourself. Once there is trust in yourself, then all the stuff of the illusory world goes away because you are trusting that you are not all those things.