Living in wonder is living in the world of discovery. If you want to know something, then you have left the world of wonder. This can be confusing because often we say “I wonder“ and then ask a question that looks for an answer in knowledge. Yet, if you look at the question you ask, you might see that it is an opening to the state of wonder. You may wonder what makes the world go round, then go off and discover what does make it go around. We have a tendency to use the “I wonder” question as a beginning to asking something based on knowledge, something that doesn’t need us to go out and discover it for ourselves.
“I wonder” questions are born from “I don’t know” which means we are in the state of “the unknown” and are willing to discover for ourselves. If you already know something, you are not in wonder. You are in knowing/knowledge. Your mind is already too full, and often when presented with a full mind, it wanders off somewhere else.
In the domain of “knowing,” it is like you open a door and there is a room full of toys. You can go into it, wander around and play with all the toys. In the domain of “not knowing,” you open the door and it is completely empty. There aren’t even any walls. Even though the room is empty, it is full with wonder and discovery.
To open this door to discovery, you can add “I wonder” at the end of a question as it will open this door to discovery. For example, you could say “there is something growing in the backyard, I wonder what it is” and then go and discover what is growing in your backyard.
Doing “I wonder” psychologically, you could ask questions like “I wonder what it is that causes me to get angry every time my spouse asks me what is for dinner,’” or “I wonder what causes me to feel anxious when people show up late for a meeting.” To wonder is to observe something; to look at it from all angles.
Then you might care to take it to a broader context of just “I wonder what causes my anger,” and “I wonder what causes my anxiety.” Next, you could even take it to a broader context of by asking “I wonder what this entity called (fill in your name) is.” In each case the “I wonder” question opens you up to discovery and invites you to look at all possible answers. Wonder and discovery are what keep us moving and alive.
Sometimes we feel trapped in the words we use to define ourselves, such as, unworthy, vain, greedy, jealous, wife, mother, husband, father, or whatever words (contexts) we use. Now, you can remove yourself from the trap of words by seeing what the word is pointing to, go there and become it. Once you become what the word is pointing to, you no longer need the word because you are it, and you are no longer that word which defines you. You completed it and it dies.
To see you are the “world’s worst person” is the same as seeing you are the “world’s best person” because neither of two statements makes any difference. The only thing is to discover it without any feelings or judgments or opinions attached to it. For me, discovering my stupidity is great news. For that is a whole new domain of activity I can explore/discover and find out all about it.