The way you are, in a blown up and expanded way, is the way the world is. Most people think they are clear and clean and nice and it is everyone else who is causing the problems in the world. They want to blame others instead of looking at themselves.
If you could see that when there is a war on the planet, we are all 100 percent responsible for it. That would be perfect discovery. We are doing it, each of us. It isn’t them. We allow it by virtue of our own actions. If there is a war on this planet it is you who are causing it. If it is in you, it is in the world and vice versa.
If you have a negative thought, or a judgment about another person, that is violence. If you have to be right, thus making someone else wrong, that is violence. If you have any anger or discontent, that is violence. Then it expands out from you like a hot air balloon and spreads out over the whole world.
Take the individual violence and multiply it by all the people on the planet and you have a war, or many wars. The tininess of your anger causes a war. It is hard for most to make that leap, to see that is true. You might be saying to yourself as you read this, “Wait a minute, the way I am doesn’t have anything to do with wars, I don’t have anything to do with how the world is, I am not the one sending troops out.” However, we are the world.
You yelling at me and me yelling at you or you yelling at your children is telling the planet that it is OKfor it to go to war. Because you are at war within yourself, that makes wars in the world OK. Because you make it just fine for yourself to be angry, you justify it for yourself, which justifies wars for the world. You can justify your own anger and a violent action by saying it was their fault; they started it. They hit me, so I hit them back. That is how it is until we realize that anyone who resorts to violence for any reason—self-defense or defending their home or whatever reason is just as violent as the one who was attacking them. Violence is violence.
If there is something you see in another, then it is in you. If you judge another for being an angry person, you are that angry person. If you judge another for being lazy or messy or greedy, you are that as well. When you add your thoughts into what you are observing, and then say it is them, you are not seeing it in yourself. (All you are seeing is your own opinion
You don’t see another for who they are, you see them for what you think they are based on your beliefs and expectations. You make an image out of that person because you are that image as well. The only way that you can see another as they actually are is for you to be actually who you are.
If you look and see a person who has buried themselves in drugs or any addiction, instead of judging them, look at them and see that is you. You could possibly then have compassion for that person, as you see you are the same as they are. If you can see that, then you can look towards yourself to find out where it is in you. That is the progression of discovery.
And, you might already be aware that others are the same as you, and yet still hold a judgment on them, which is holding that same judgment on yourself. You see that drug addict, and you see that you have a glass of wine every night, and smoke cigarettes or take prescriptions drugs, and then you judge them as bad and yourself as bad as well.
The ending of violence in oneself would allow you to face the violence in everyone else and you would be undefeatable. It is not like saying, “I am going to be non-violent, and I am going to face this violence.” If inside of you is violence, then you are facing the violence with violence, and it is going to kill you. But if there is no shred of violence in you, you are not even facing violence, you just stand there, as an immovable object.
If you care to see something as new or different, then you need to end the old. If you are seeing someone, and there is anger in you towards them, then see something new there. That would cause a little glitch in your thinking that puts a space there that destroys the old. This space leaves an opening for something new to enter.
Krishnamurti recommended that we sit quietly and watch our thoughts and find the end to them as a kind of meditation. I do not recommend meditation, for meditation is in living your life. A real meditation is doing whatever you are doing in your life, cooking dinner, going to work, walking down the street, whatever you are doing, with a quiet mind, a mind without any judgment. It is living your life, not just taking 30 minutes or an hour to do an exercise.
Though, if you have ever done this experiment of finding an end to your thoughts, you might have noticed that it is almost impossible to find an end; that they go on and on, one right after another. There is no space between 2 thoughts.
We are stuck in a continuous loop of thinking. If you could follow a thought to its end, then you have found the end of thought, and there is a space. You could say, “I cannot follow it to its end because it doesn’t have an end.” Even the act of acknowledging that causes a glitch in your thoughts. And that is an opening to creating that space.
When people talk about meditation, they are usually talking about sitting quietly, and telling themselves to bring their mind down to not thinking, yet that is just the mind thinking it is not thinking. A quiet mind is not done by forcing it or by demanding your thoughts to end. That doesn’t work. A quiet mind has no judgments or comparisons in it. The ending of a thought always has meditation in it if another thought doesn’t start. That would be a quiet mind.